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Originally Posted by photon
Interesting theories, but do you have any studies and evidence to back any of that up?
I'm seriously asking, I was kind of ok with corporal punishment (the way I was raised) until I actually had a kid, and I'm not so sure it's all that great.
Not all kids respond to it either, when he was younger the spanking the hand stuff didn't end up with better behaviour, and ended up with him thinking hitting is ok.
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I took a course a few years back that Gary Ezzo put out called "Growing Kids God's Way". It was obviously biblically based but, he did quote from several studies.
There is really a small window of opportunity for corporal punishment. My boys are 7 and 8 and pretty much past the spanking stage. Withdrawing privileges are now more effective. There tolerance for pain is high enough that I would have to beat them now to be effective. Having said that, I'm sure if given a choice of a spanking or a loss of privileges they would still choose the loss of privileges.
Ezzo recommended never spanking a child with your hand because your hands should be associated with love not punishment. Something short and flexible was recommended. Also, you never embarrass the child by spanking him in public. Take him to a private room and explain why he's being spanked. Don't show any anger and if you are angry wait to punish him when you have self control. I always expressed sadness when I punished them. My one son would immediately want a hug and comfort after he was spanked. The other wanted to be left alone. Within 5 minutes he would come out and want some lap time.
I don't believe spanking leads to violence unless it is administered in anger.