We used spanking with our kids, but within certain parameters. We only did it between the age of 18 months and 3 years. Before that they didn't understand what it meant, and after that there were better options ... reasoning with them, suspension of privileges, etc. We NEVER did it when we were angry and we never applied more than two swats to the bum. During that 18 month to 3 year age though it seemed to work because they understood it better than reasoning or suspension of privileges. Having established the threat of a spanking, we also found we didn't have to do it very often. The threat was usually enough.
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