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Originally Posted by Flameschick
I don't get the concept of "serious" dating or monogamy. Myself and most of my girl friends have 2-3 guys that we "see" and we flip through them depending on what mood we're in: 1 guy to escort us to a function; another for nooky; another to just chill with, etc. Why latch on to one guy? It's like buying a car and holding on to it when you know a newer and better model is going to come out next year. You have fun with it, then dump it or exchange it and move on when something better comes along.
Plus, it's inevitable that your gf/bf/husband/wife cheats or at least is in the stage before that happens where she or he finds herself/himself attracted to someone else and wishes she/he were with that person. Don't think they should be penalized for that. It's human nature to be curious and experiment. The only people who view seeing more than one person as immoral are those who have a rather naive pristine view of what a relationship should entail and take the concept way too seriously. That's my early-to-mid 20's Gen-Y take on things anyway.
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Very good angle Flameschick! Way to strip everything in life right down to Just in Time delivery for all your basic needs all from different suppliers. That can be very fun and satisfies our innate human biological needs.
However, if you've been paying attention to the differences between Humans and animals,we have been blessed with rational thought. Human's have been able to build dominion over this Earth because they have the ability to see beyond the moment at hand and take action (or inaction) for the longer term good. Sometimes this means resisting whimsical urges.This is why anarchy has been balanced with law and order in our most developed societies.
Monogamy in a way is a test of a person's overall worth as a human being in the eye's of their partner. It's a remarkable quality to be able to see past the moment and commit to something greater over a longer period of time. This is why it's an important quality for people. Thus some people try to find one person that can satisfy all three of those 'urges' and when an off night/week (or in the case of married or more devoted couples maybe months/years) occurs, they give them the benefit of the doubt and resist the urge to hump whatever walks by next. Ultimately they see long-term value and that's more important to them. When one partner in such a relationship breaks down and cheats then they've failed the test and a new more worthy partner must be sought after.
While not espousing to monogamy certainly isn't 'immoral' in my eyes, it's rather a sign of character flaw.