[Dion]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

I don't think she should stop considering her own wants. She doesn't cease to exist in the relationship, but I do agree she should also be considering his thoughts on the matter. However, and I suppose this is an assumption on my part, she seems to think it's a non issue, and that she should be trusted by her boyfriend. The choice is hers and I still think that Rubecube needs to decide whether he trusts her or not and how much this whole extravaganza bothers him.

There's nothing wrong with considering your own needs in a relationship. The mistake this young girl is making is expecting Rube to trust her. Most guys would question why she is doing this and wether she has really let get of the past in regards to the guy she wants Rube to trust.

I suppose it could create temptation, this guy staying with her, but it doesn't mean she'll succumb to it. She says he is just a friend. This is where that trust thing comes in. He may have the dirtiest of intentions, but it doesn't mean she'll cave to his will just because they have done things in the past. Is she trustworthy? That's the key to this whole thing.

Would you never trust your significant other around someone they had previously slept/fooled around with or dated? Are you at risk to fool around with anyone that you have done things with in the past?

The thing is I would never put the significant other in my relationship in a situation like that. It's a foolish thing to do and shows a lack of maturity on her part. You don't bring temptation into a relationship with hopes the other person will trust you. Only a fool would believe that nothing could never happen. People are human and fall to their temptations everyday. That's why you eliminate it.

I agree that when you get right down to it, trust is the ultimate issue. In this case I believe Rube has the smarts and will make the descion he feels is correct.