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Originally Posted by Dion
I'm not saying it's diabolical. I just think she needed to stop thinking about her own wants and to try and focus on how her actions are going to affect the relationship. Based on the fact she's fooled around with that guy in the past, there's enough reason there for someone to worry and distrust. Besides, having him stay with her also creates temptation that may or may not lead to some more fooling around. She's flirting with danger and it may come back to bite her in the arse with the loss of a relationship.
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I don't think she should stop considering her own wants. She doesn't cease to exist in the relationship, but I do agree she should also be considering his thoughts on the matter. However, and I suppose this is an assumption on my part, she seems to think it's a non issue, and that she should be trusted by her boyfriend. The choice is hers and I still think that Rubecube needs to decide whether he trusts her or not and how much this whole extravaganza bothers him.
I suppose it
could create temptation, this guy staying with her, but it doesn't mean she'll succumb to it. She says he is just a friend. This is where that trust thing comes in. He may have the dirtiest of intentions, but it doesn't mean she'll cave to his will just because they have done things in the past. Is she trustworthy? That's the key to this whole thing.
Would you never trust your significant other around someone they had previously slept/fooled around with or dated? Are you at risk to fool around with anyone that you have done things with in the past?