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Originally Posted by Eastern Girl
My question to you would be at what point should someone completely trust the person they are with? My thought is that it's one of those things that isn't black or white. There is no set time frame for trust, so I don't think you can say someone who trusts after a few months is foolish. Again, just my humble opinion.
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I'd say anywhere from a year to never. 2 months - no way. I'm not saying you can't trust her out of your sight, and you should put a webcam behind the bathroom mirror to make sure she's only chanting YOUR name when she's in the shower with the "personal massager" - I'm saying you can trust her within limits, and letting her "good friend" who happens to be a former snugglebuddy stay over crosses that limit.
There are plenty of people that trust others on short acquaintance. These people are known as "marks", and they invariably get taken advantage of, because there are plenty of people out there that SEEM trustworthy but are not. Bad people don't walk around with a big flashing sign that says "Super ######bag!" on their foreheads to make it easy to pick them out (well - most don't, though some are proud of being scumbags and don't care who knows it), so you should only trust people you have built up a long term relationship with.
Anybody can fake being nice for 2 months. If they can fake being nice for years and years, well, then you've got an excuse if they've bamboozled you. A few months - well, sometime you only learn by getting burned.