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Originally Posted by RougeUnderoos
Is that any worse than "well, I am worried you are going to screw this guy and I don't want you sleeping under the same roof, even though you've told me nothing is going to happen"?
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Maybe not, but the point you seem to be missing is that it wasn't his choice to get INTO this situation in the first place. So he's in a difficult position - does he roll over and play mr. nice guy even though he really doesn't like what's happening, or does he play mr. mean guy and tell her that he DOES have a problem with it and she needs to address it one way or the other.
Like I said, respect means you don't put people into that kind of dilemma if you can help it. If you do put them in one, and you get pushback, you can cry matyr all you want, and say the other person is being unreasonable but YOU were the one forcing them to decide whether to be unreasonable, or unhappy.