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Originally Posted by rubecube
The bolded part is what bothered me about this in the first place. Where would she get the idea that this is somehow acceptable?
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Because they are "just friends."
This easily relates to the situation that led to my friend's marriage ending. He had a friend in Vancouver, a former girlfriend, whom he was talking to. A lot. My friend didn't like it one bit, but in his mind, it was perfectly alright because they were "just friends." Until the other girl ended her relationship. Within seconds, he ended theirs. Right up to the last time my friend heard from the a-hole, he was still trying to argue that they were "just friends".
And yet, he became very jealous when I moved in to help her after he left. He tried to turn the argument against my friend, asking why it was alright for me to move into support her, when she got so angry at him for his online relationship with the other girl. In my case, the difference is that we've always been friends, and will only be friends. There has never been anything more, or any threat of it. He was always after something more from the other girl, and ended a marriage when he thought he had it.
In your scenario, the guy's thought process seems rather obvious. He's known to be a cheater, apparently, and he's fooled around with this girl in the past. He's probably expecting to get some. The question is whether you trust your girlfriend's intentions. What he may want is immaterial if she no longer has any interest in him.
I'd tend to agree with 4x4. Sounds like she is asking for approval rather than permission. Seems like she's gonna do it either way. Either you trust her, or you don't.