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Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
My question is why flirt if you expect nothing? Expend your energies on something or someone you really desire.
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Good question. My reasoning is that while I'm sociable, flirtatious, and out going around people I know, and know well, I'm more shy, reserved, and tend to live inside my head around people I don't (unless drunk of course, alas as much as I try a perpetual state of intoxication I've yet to achieve). So how do I fix my, now relatively small, shyness problem? By engaging in situations to practice where the outcome of crash and burn isn't a deterrent.
If I talk and flirt with the girl, and it goes no where. No big deal, I'm not expecting it to. However if it goes well and still nothing comes of it, I'm better off by getting over an anxiety, or at least have some experience doing so.
If I'm not good in certain situations why wait until I need to be and then fail? Why not attempt to get better when the stakes aren't nearly as high (or high at all)?
Like I said best case scenario, see Ozy_Flame's response. Worst case, meh. Really it's a no lose situation.
If I'm investing time/energy on someone I really want, I want to be able to invest my time and energy wisely. Something I haven't done in the past.
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Originally Posted by wittynickname
"Flirting" is overrated, and any lines or anything you might use are likely to crash and burn. You can add in a few playful things, subtly insinuate that you're interested
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Bah, that's the definition of flirting
Examples would be?
As I stated in my response to Pyro, I'm good with people I know as my humour is responsive (my humour is cornball/cheesy combined with intelligent, dry, wit and sarcasm), the problem is just meeting people takes me a bit to warm up/understand how they'd react. Hence, in part, the desire to start the thread. Just looking for good, ideas to add in with talking and chatting.