Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC
In no particular order.
Women want men who
A) Make them laugh. Q-Scout's advice about joking, flirting is bang on.
B) they can't have. Do other stuff with other people. Don't always be there when she needs a shoulder. (Occasionally is fine, because we also like men who are supportive, but never when the problem is about another man.)
C) Are men. That doesn't mean "be an ass", but it does mean that you need to take control of your own actions. Quit worrying about what she might be feeling, thinking, and saying. Be active not reactive in your own thoughts, feelings, and words.
D) don't play mind games. Flirting and joking are all fun, and may help to warm her up to the idea but if asked, be honest. Any good relationship begins there.
E) aren't creepy. Do not tell her you that you've felt this way for a long time. However, honesty comes before "not creepy" on the list, so admit it if asked directly.
F) are passionate. About something besides us. We look at it as a challenge to divert all that passion towards us. If we're successful at doing this, there is no longer a challenge, so beware of succumbing to our wiles. (Once the relationship is considered long term by both partners, this passion is what keeps things rolling, so don't squelch it forever)
G) are supportive. Duh. We like to know there's a safety net there, but you don't have to be the only one holding it up. Take a little corner to show you care, but we have girlfriends, parents, siblings, co-workers ect. who are all holding a little corner. If you hog the entire net, you're making us dependant on you and taking away that little bit of mystery that men hold for us.
And if you get this far, we also want men who
H) don't make a big gift box look empty. That's only part of the equation though - in fact, 1/4 of it. The only quarter we can live without. The other 3/4 comprise of magic hands, mouth, and being detail orientated.
Good Luck and Have Fun!
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