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Originally Posted by flylock shox
Well, it seems to me that she's either deliberately messing with you and stringing you along because it makes her feel good about herself, or she's really just uncertain how she feels about you and is internally unhappy. Giving her the benefit of the doubt, as you're doing, let's go with the latter. Either way though, one thing is certain: it's your heart that's out in the open, and she's leaving it hanging. Hanging in the open isn't good for hearts. Her intentions may be good, and she may be genuinely troubled by how she feels and how her feelings and actions affect you, but that isn't going to change the fact that you're the one who's going to end up getting hurt by this.
Sounds to me like you're a nice guy who really cares about this girl and is doing everything he can to respect her feelings. And maybe she's a nice girl who's really confused and really doesn't mean to hurt anybody. But the fact of the matter is, you ARE going to get hurt in this scenario. If you can accept that, keep your feelings invested in her and maybe it'll all pan out in the end. If you can't, or if you're able to detach yourself emotionally from the situation and view it analytically, you need to step back, realize you're a good guy and that there are lots of good girls in the world who are looking for you, and then go out there and introduce yourself to one.
But then, what the hell do I know.
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If she was messing with me I don't think she would have got upset like she did when she thought I hated her for saying things like she was done with guys when she had two of her friends on the same night demand she be their girlfriend and then the next day her ex-roommate cry all day and beg her to marry him three times. That's the day she told me on MSN that she loved me and she hoped that one day I would forgive her because she figured I was just ignoring her but I was really at work. It took her a couple days but she realized she had unfairly painted me with the same brush as them and that I didn't deserve that.
I think the biggest thing that confuses her is like you said not wanting to hurt anyone. I think there's multiple guys that she likes alot and would consider a good choice if she decides she wants a relationship but she doesn't know which one is the right choice and doesn't want to hurt the others. But one thing she has told me is that unlike some other guys I've accepted her past and the problems she had and that I don't hold it against her and that means alot to her because your past makes you the person you are today and if your boyfriend or girlfriend cant accept that the relationship will suffer.
As far as me getting hurt it's happened before with her but she just didn't know it cause I never told her how I feel for her. Should I end up getting hurt again it would suck but atleast I could live with myself knowing that I atleast tried. I think giving up on this now without knowing for sure my chances are done would be a huge mistake and something that I would regret for the rest of my life.