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Originally Posted by Inferno
Her biggest problem and she's admitted it is she pushes away when she gets too close. She's not sure whether or not it's because she hasn't found the right guy or it's because she's not the relationship type.
When we first started talking about us possibly started something that was what she said scared her with me. She didn't want us getting close and then she ends up pushing away and breaking my heart. But I told her that I know that no relationship is guaranteed to work but I also know that no relationship is guaranteed not to work and that there's a chance she might not push away from me.
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Well, it seems to me that she's either deliberately messing with you and stringing you along because it makes her feel good about herself, or she's really just uncertain how she feels about you and is internally unhappy. Giving her the benefit of the doubt, as you're doing, let's go with the latter. Either way though, one thing is certain: it's your heart that's out in the open, and she's leaving it hanging. Hanging in the open isn't good for hearts. Her intentions may be good, and she may be genuinely troubled by how she feels and how her feelings and actions affect you, but that isn't going to change the fact that you're the one who's going to end up getting hurt by this.
Sounds to me like you're a nice guy who really cares about this girl and is doing everything he can to respect her feelings. And maybe she's a nice girl who's really confused and really doesn't mean to hurt anybody. But the fact of the matter is, you ARE going to get hurt in this scenario. If you can accept that, keep your feelings invested in her and maybe it'll all pan out in the end. If you can't, or if you're able to detach yourself emotionally from the situation and view it analytically, you need to step back, realize you're a good guy and that there are lots of good girls in the world who are looking for you, and then go out there and introduce yourself to one.
But then, what the hell do I know.