Try to picture your friendship with her in 1 year, 2 years, 3 years, etc. if you were to keep things as they are right now. If you see the two of you growing apart then are you willing to risk speeding up that process by trying to follow your heart?
I was in the same situation as you. What did I do? I was a chicken. Eventually we drifted apart and I didn't have the friend nor the chance to have more than the friend. I was crushed and it took me a while to get over it. A looong while. I was able to forget about her as other girls came into my life, but I wasn't able to completely drop the notion of us getting together until I met my wife. I found it harder to get over a girl I never had than any girl I did get.
I'm not trying to tell you to go for it. I'm just giving you one man's experiences of not going for it. I didn't go for it, and when I lost the chance to go for it, as well as the friend (eventually) I was miserable. Fortunately for me I met the woman for me and I no longer care about the "what if" questions.
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