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Inferno · 12-19-2007, 08:19 PM

Up until this summer I was in a similar situation with a girl I've had feelings for since grade 10 only this was for 10 years. But unlike you we weren't close friends prior to me telling her so things might not be as complicated for me as they would be for you.

Since we've gotten back in contact and I've told her we've gotten pretty close. We both consider each other close friends and both have said that we love each other. There was one night where we made out multiple times which would have led to sex according to her but she doesn't want us having sex unless we're in a relationship. She's even told me that at one point she was considering a serious relationship with me but right now things are too complicated with her barely having time for herself and just getting out of a six year marriage that should have never been and wanting some freedom. Not necessarily when it comes to sex she just doesn't want to have to worry about making someone other than herself and her daughter happy. We've had our times where our friendship has been rocky because there's other guys interested who she likes too but we've always worked it out.

But I would suggest being honest with her because I spent ten years regretting not telling mine. I think every guy has one girl that has something no other girl has and never will and for me it's her. I've liked other girls but when the chance with them has passed it hasn't bugged me like it did with her since grad.

I cant really say for sure how it's going to affect your friendship if she's not interested but atleast you wont live with the regret of never telling her and wondering what might have been. After I told mine she told me that she really wished I would have told her back then because I would have been a great boyfriend unlike some of the s she ended up dating. And she still tells me that there's a chance for us but right now just isn't a good time. So all I can do right now is just let her know that I care for her alot and not put pressure on her and hope that one day she wants to get back in a relationship that she decides that I'm the one she wants to be with.

12-19-2007, 08:19 PM	#111
Inferno Franchise Player Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: The Pas, MB Exp:	Up until this summer I was in a similar situation with a girl I've had feelings for since grade 10 only this was for 10 years. But unlike you we weren't close friends prior to me telling her so things might not be as complicated for me as they would be for you. Since we've gotten back in contact and I've told her we've gotten pretty close. We both consider each other close friends and both have said that we love each other. There was one night where we made out multiple times which would have led to sex according to her but she doesn't want us having sex unless we're in a relationship. She's even told me that at one point she was considering a serious relationship with me but right now things are too complicated with her barely having time for herself and just getting out of a six year marriage that should have never been and wanting some freedom. Not necessarily when it comes to sex she just doesn't want to have to worry about making someone other than herself and her daughter happy. We've had our times where our friendship has been rocky because there's other guys interested who she likes too but we've always worked it out. But I would suggest being honest with her because I spent ten years regretting not telling mine. I think every guy has one girl that has something no other girl has and never will and for me it's her. I've liked other girls but when the chance with them has passed it hasn't bugged me like it did with her since grad. I cant really say for sure how it's going to affect your friendship if she's not interested but atleast you wont live with the regret of never telling her and wondering what might have been. After I told mine she told me that she really wished I would have told her back then because I would have been a great boyfriend unlike some of the s she ended up dating. And she still tells me that there's a chance for us but right now just isn't a good time. So all I can do right now is just let her know that I care for her alot and not put pressure on her and hope that one day she wants to get back in a relationship that she decides that I'm the one she wants to be with. Last edited by Inferno; 12-19-2007 at 08:24 PM.