Here's what I found helps.
Listen to what people say. Speak half as much as you listen. When you show a genuine interest in who they are and what they do, then they learn to become someone that can feel comfortable approaching you. Always speak half as much as you listen; I've never had a problem with a lack of friends because I always show interest in others.
At the same time, once you're comfortable with yourself, and let people know that you set trends instead of follow them, they'll come. Initially it may be hard; but if you're seen as a friendly, hard-working and independent individual... trust me, people will come and listen to what YOU have to say.
And my friend, there's always traveling. I was kind of in a rut like that last year (after university, ironically). I left for the South Pacific for a while, and man... the international friends I met? Holy smokes, what a rich, enjoyable pot of gold. I guarantee you: traveling will give you experiences, make you friends and make you discover strengths inside you you never thought you had. Why is this? Because everyone traveling / hosteling is in the SAME boat as you. They are all looking to talk to people and make friends. As long as you're okay with approaching people, other foreigners will flock to you like crazy. It's like the proverbial snowball rolling down the hill - make sure you start it, and once you do, all the other snow will gravitate towards it and catch on.
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