I say it depends on one thing. Her behavior over the last 4 years... especially recently.
Does she date?
Does she complain about them to you?
If she is full on dating and having a sexually active life without you, yet you go antiquing together you are a girlfriend with a penis. Forget about it. If she is hot and yet strangely never dates or hooks up with guys, then you might have a chance.
I'm not in a similar situation as I have a girl that has been a friend for 5-6 years now. We are close... but, even though I think she is attractive I know we would never work as a couple... we can hang out in short doses but a full time relationship would destroy us. So I am more than happy leaving it the way it is.. that said we did have the "friends with benefits" talk in Mexico... but even drunk we both knew it would be a bad call...
Make sure you are not risking this friendship because your lonely and maybe a little intimidated to risk getting to know a girl that may actually like you back in a "your hot" kind of way. Sometimes its easy to think the friend is the one because she is right there and easily accessible, but that doesn't mean you and her are right for each other. If you look at it and your feelings are real and not feelings created by conveyance and horny... If you really feel you are really compatible in a sexual relationship maybe its worth the shot... especially if you can't let it go.
If you really have feelings for her and you don't do anything about it you are being unfair to your self... if she will never be a partner for you then you are overlooking so many more possibilities and your friendship with her has a layer of falseness... which is safe and can't hurt your feelings but ultimately no good.
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