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Old 11-14-2007, 06:49 PM   #40
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Oh, I also wanted to add that my parents are starting to bug me a bit about having no desire to get married or have kids. It's pretty annoying.
I hear that loud and clear.

It's not that I have high standards, I have my own qualities that I look for. A friend of mine once said to me "the reason you have trouble is because you won't settle for anything less than the best, and most of the time those girls are already gone."

That being said I'm content being single. I can do what I want, go where I want, and take time to spend with family and volunteer. If the right girl comes along, cool I can shift those priorities.

Do I want to be a dad? More than anything, I'd love to be a hockey dad, being up at 6am for practise. Helping with homework, and sneaking snacks before bedtime. But does that desire make me want to shift my "standards" to find a girl, as opposed the a right girl I'm looking for? No.

I have lots going on in my life right now, a long-term relationship and commitment to a child just aren't in the cards right now. Right now. Hopefully someday.

Until then, I'll party on the weekends, put in 10+ hours at work, and have a blast doing it. I don't have to defend myself to anyone, I'm underemployed right now, so what? I have other priorities right now. I'm single, so what I have other priorities right now. I don't have a child, so what I want to make it to Calgary to see the Flames play again before I'm tied down paying for diapers and a minivan.

I want a child, I even know the names, however I'm definitely not ready yet.
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