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Resolute 14 · 11-07-2007, 03:05 PM

I am kinda on the fence on this one, as "dump the beyotch" does sound like reasonable advice.

But at the same time, for some people, standing up to a bad situation is not something they can do alone. I think that if you consider her a friend, then you should try to be a friend. If you would not abandon any of your other friends, no matter what trouble they are in, then why would you abandon her?

OTOH, if you are just just a crutch for her, then at some point, a little tough love will have to happen. Have you talked to her about her situation, and whether she is willing to change it? Sounds like she has some co-dependency issues, which is about the only reason why I can imagine a person putting up with a twit like your former roommate. If she is attempting to shift that dependency onto you, its not going to help anyone. She has to learn to stand on her own two feet.

Tough call. I might not abandon her entirely, but at the same time, make it clear to her that she needs to take command of her own life, and that when she is ready, you'll still be there.

11-07-2007, 03:05 PM	#23
Resolute 14 In the Sin Bin Join Date: Jan 2003 Exp:	I am kinda on the fence on this one, as "dump the beyotch" does sound like reasonable advice. But at the same time, for some people, standing up to a bad situation is not something they can do alone. I think that if you consider her a friend, then you should try to be a friend. If you would not abandon any of your other friends, no matter what trouble they are in, then why would you abandon her? OTOH, if you are just just a crutch for her, then at some point, a little tough love will have to happen. Have you talked to her about her situation, and whether she is willing to change it? Sounds like she has some co-dependency issues, which is about the only reason why I can imagine a person putting up with a twit like your former roommate. If she is attempting to shift that dependency onto you, its not going to help anyone. She has to learn to stand on her own two feet. Tough call. I might not abandon her entirely, but at the same time, make it clear to her that she needs to take command of her own life, and that when she is ready, you'll still be there.