Well, in the hope that this will be of some help, I too used to be really depressed all the time thru the ages of about 16-25 - continually obsessing over the same problems, caught up in my emotions, and unable to see any point to living.
Eventually I got out of that mindset, and it was really just a moment of decision where I said to myself - either I go on the way I've been, or I change. Once I made the decision to change, I further set the goal that I was going to BE happy, and that I wasn't going to let anything stand in the way of that. Now I've beaten that depression for 15 years now, and have never gone back to those ways.
Obviously for many people it isn't as simple as just willing your way out of depression, but there is a very important point here - people can be willing to help, but the key is that YOU have to change before their help will mean anything. Allowing outside influences to drive your recovery just means that other outside influences will be able to set you back again; you must find inner strength to fuel a rage for happiness, a lust for it, a power that masters your soul and transforms it into a happy one.
There is nothing wrong, and much right, with seeking help, but if you do not seek it with the attitude that you are going to do most of the heavy lifting, you are likely to fail. Think of it as learning any other skill - a teacher can do much to help you, but if you are not motivated to put what you learn into practice, you will be an indifferent student at best.
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