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REDVAN · 11-05-2007, 11:21 PM

I sent rico a PM, but this is a problem a lot of people go through. I have become all too familiar with this recently, and I don't want to spill the beans because I know some people on this board personally...

BUT.

Don't take the drugs. You need to learn to get through this on your own. There are mental processes you can learn, and completely change the way you think about yourself!

Be the type of person you want your friends to be, and then you will find out who your real friends are. You might find that people who were just casual friends become closer, or people who were really good friends aren't.

Take a couple days off work if you can. Don't do anything. Think. Feel like crap, feel the feelings you need to feel. Think about them, think about why. Get in touch with yourself any way you know how. Don't hide from those who are close to you. It's a hard thing to say, but if you are afraid to share your feelings, because someone won't love you or they won't want to hear it, that might be part of your problem. Find someone who will listen and care. Even on CP you could find someone willing to go for coffee.

Try something new. Start working out if you don't. Try a new sport. Pick up a hobby. FIND AN OLD FRIEND AND MEET UP WITH THEM. (Find someone new you want to be friends with!) Especially someone you were close with- if you just drifted apart they can be a rock that you might need. Go view some scenery somewhere. Spend time with your pet. Don't avoid your feelings, because you can't hide from them forever, and the longer you hide the worse you'll feel in the meantime.

These are some simple things I am suggesting, but sometimes all you need is time. If you want to go through this on your own without drugs, then take the time to sit back and remember who you are. Think about what you want to be. Lots of thinking. Get some new help if you need it. And don't be afraid to post things on a message board, because there are a lot of caring people out there. Sometimes all you have to do is ask for help and I bet people on here would reach out to help, myself included.

11-05-2007, 11:21 PM	#39
REDVAN Franchise Player Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Calgary Exp:	I sent rico a PM, but this is a problem a lot of people go through. I have become all too familiar with this recently, and I don't want to spill the beans because I know some people on this board personally... BUT. Don't take the drugs. You need to learn to get through this on your own. There are mental processes you can learn, and completely change the way you think about yourself! Be the type of person you want your friends to be, and then you will find out who your real friends are. You might find that people who were just casual friends become closer, or people who were really good friends aren't. Take a couple days off work if you can. Don't do anything. Think. Feel like crap, feel the feelings you need to feel. Think about them, think about why. Get in touch with yourself any way you know how. Don't hide from those who are close to you. It's a hard thing to say, but if you are afraid to share your feelings, because someone won't love you or they won't want to hear it, that might be part of your problem. Find someone who will listen and care. Even on CP you could find someone willing to go for coffee. Try something new. Start working out if you don't. Try a new sport. Pick up a hobby. FIND AN OLD FRIEND AND MEET UP WITH THEM. (Find someone new you want to be friends with!) Especially someone you were close with- if you just drifted apart they can be a rock that you might need. Go view some scenery somewhere. Spend time with your pet. Don't avoid your feelings, because you can't hide from them forever, and the longer you hide the worse you'll feel in the meantime. These are some simple things I am suggesting, but sometimes all you need is time. If you want to go through this on your own without drugs, then take the time to sit back and remember who you are. Think about what you want to be. Lots of thinking. Get some new help if you need it. And don't be afraid to post things on a message board, because there are a lot of caring people out there. Sometimes all you have to do is ask for help and I bet people on here would reach out to help, myself included. __________________ REDVAN!