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Save Us Sutter · 10-27-2007, 11:52 PM

Ok guys, I need some help and as I am fairly new to the city of Calgary I’m not really sure where else to turn. There are a lot of knowledgeable posters on this board and I figured I could turn here for some advice.

Here’s the story…

My girlfriend and I moved out here together about 4 months ago. Since that time we have broken up but remained friends as we’ve always been very close even before we were in a relationship.

About three weeks ago she started dating a new guy who heavily uses coke and smokes crack. Of course, she has started doing it with him on an almost daily basis. She has lost her day job as she can’t wake up in the mornings and is currently working part time at a bar where 50% of the staff and probably 80% of the clientelle also uses drugs.

As her ex, it is very difficult for me to say anything to her about this new guy as she sees it as me being jealous. To be honest, I am a little jealous that he gets to spend so much time with her, but I am more worried about her drug use than anything. She had problems with this in the past and it was one of the reasons she moved to Calgary. To be with her family and get away from the people back home who she was doing drugs with. (Not me for the record) The first three months here she hardly ever did anything and maintained a full time job. Now she is slipping back into old habits and it’s actually worse than it ever was.

There have been a few times in the past two weeks where she has broken down and cried to me about how depressed she is and how helpless she feels, but then when she wakes up in the morning, she goes right back out and does it again. I have given her what advice I can but I’ve realized now that this is way over my head and I need some help.

So CP Nation, I ask of you. Does anyone have experience helping a loved one get the help they need? She needs to get treatment for her depression as well as I think that is a big part of why she uses. I am looking for names/numbers of programs, doctors, meetings, psychologists, whatever you can think of or have used in the past.

Preferably something with a low cost, as neither her nor I have a lot of money and also I think something that is targeted specifically for women as I feel that would be most helpful for her.

Sorry for such a long post but I just don’t know what to do anymore, and I am seriously dreading the phone call telling me someone found her ODed in a gutter somewhere. No matter our history, I truly love this girl and want to do what I can for her. She has been receptive to the idea of getting help but never gets started by herself so I figured I could do that part for her.

Thank you so much in advance. You could honestly be saving someone's life here.

Jesse

10-27-2007, 11:52 PM	#1
Save Us Sutter I'll get you next time Gadget! Join Date: May 2003 Exp:	Help with drug addiction Ok guys, I need some help and as I am fairly new to the city of Calgary I’m not really sure where else to turn. There are a lot of knowledgeable posters on this board and I figured I could turn here for some advice. Here’s the story… My girlfriend and I moved out here together about 4 months ago. Since that time we have broken up but remained friends as we’ve always been very close even before we were in a relationship. About three weeks ago she started dating a new guy who heavily uses coke and smokes crack. Of course, she has started doing it with him on an almost daily basis. She has lost her day job as she can’t wake up in the mornings and is currently working part time at a bar where 50% of the staff and probably 80% of the clientelle also uses drugs. As her ex, it is very difficult for me to say anything to her about this new guy as she sees it as me being jealous. To be honest, I am a little jealous that he gets to spend so much time with her, but I am more worried about her drug use than anything. She had problems with this in the past and it was one of the reasons she moved to Calgary. To be with her family and get away from the people back home who she was doing drugs with. (Not me for the record) The first three months here she hardly ever did anything and maintained a full time job. Now she is slipping back into old habits and it’s actually worse than it ever was. There have been a few times in the past two weeks where she has broken down and cried to me about how depressed she is and how helpless she feels, but then when she wakes up in the morning, she goes right back out and does it again. I have given her what advice I can but I’ve realized now that this is way over my head and I need some help. So CP Nation, I ask of you. Does anyone have experience helping a loved one get the help they need? She needs to get treatment for her depression as well as I think that is a big part of why she uses. I am looking for names/numbers of programs, doctors, meetings, psychologists, whatever you can think of or have used in the past. Preferably something with a low cost, as neither her nor I have a lot of money and also I think something that is targeted specifically for women as I feel that would be most helpful for her. Sorry for such a long post but I just don’t know what to do anymore, and I am seriously dreading the phone call telling me someone found her ODed in a gutter somewhere. No matter our history, I truly love this girl and want to do what I can for her. She has been receptive to the idea of getting help but never gets started by herself so I figured I could do that part for her. Thank you so much in advance. You could honestly be saving someone's life here. Jesse Last edited by Save Us Sutter; 10-27-2007 at 11:55 PM.