well, I am no expert, and I have been known to engage an argument for longer than it should have gone, but, to me, the kicker is... is it a minor thing or major thing you are arguing about? if its minor, treat it as minor and move on. thats what mature adults do. but if its major, and has the potential to get worse and worse as time goes on, well, its often best to hash it out and let the chips fall where they may.
bottom line is this - if you love each other, and really want to for the forseeable future, is an argument really worth it? worth the hassle of starting over? worth the pain and suffering? most times its not, not even close...
it might sound trite, but it sounds like you two may actually need each other in times of crisis like this, not turn on each other...
my 2 cents, and not worth much more LOL
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