Good points all, let's clarify some things:
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Why has your girlfriend been weird with you? Who started the weirdness? You need to figure out the cause of the weirdness, and don't be so quick to assume it's J. Your girlfriend doesn't know about J and may have been weird first, before you were weird, in which case, something is on her mind and it isn't her sense that there's another girl in the picture. Find out why she's weird.
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I'm fairly sure part of it is J. We all work at the same place. My GF I don't think knows my feelings about the matter, but, she views J as a threat. She says she flirts with me a lot, and just has that woman's intuition that J wants me. And she asked me earlier this week to tell her what I find unattractive about J, which took me by surprise. Secondly, she's been a lot more emotional lately. She's not drama-y or generally not too terribly emotional, but lately she has been. She also seems to be snappy with me on more than one occasion on unrelated topics.
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Practically speaking, is "J" even interested in your, or is she one of those naturally flirty girls who's nice to everyone? Might you be ready to torch what you have now for an unattainable?
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I'm not sure, but I do suspect yes. She's not really flirty with people and I've said a few things to her jokingly along the lines of "I'm flattered that you want me, but really I have a girlfriend." And instead of denying it or playing it off, J laughs and says don't tell your GF you said that, I don't want her to beat me up.
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I mean seriously, how much bigger of a sign do you need that you are not ready to settle down yet??
You are on a 'forever' path with the girl you are currently with. I am almost positive that deep down 'forever' is a tad longer than you were thinking when you moved in together...
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You know, I actually like long term relationships. I'm 25, and had only three real girlfriends. The first lasted 18 months, the second 4.5 years and now this one. And, when we moved in together, I did think it might be a forever thing. I wasn't expecting a hiccup like this. I think part of me may want to sample a little more than three partners, but at the same time, I'm not one to just do stuff with people without there being a connection of some kind. I'm not a one night stand kind of guy.
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But then I think about this, do I really know I'm not that kind of guy? I've never really been in a situation where the opportunity presented itself. I don't think I'm that kind of guy, but ...yeah.