[CaptainCrunch]

First of all this thread is useless without pics.

Second of all, people go through difficulties where thier relationships get weird, trust me, for me it always comes at about the one year mark because you've gone from a thrilling relationship to the big familiarity. I can also safely say that depending on your age your attention wanders a bit, and things on the other side of the wall start looking better because of the what if factor.

Unless the lines of communication are currently shot with the current girl you owe it to her to have the talk. Maybe you can work out the weird part and it might all come down to where your relationship is going. If its not fixable maybe you two need some space.

But I have to say that this J person where you see her as a friend, your seeing her as more then that. Your wondering if she's better or more exciting or more easily accessible then what you've got now. I'm going to tell you flat out, that chances are, she's not, you have doubts about what you have right now, and your mind is doing the what if dance.

Cool it with J, sit down with your girlfriend, maybe talk about ways of spicing things up in your relationship (And I'm not talking chips dips chains and whips) and decide if its in both of your interests to move on or work things out.