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gallione11 · 10-05-2007, 06:18 PM

I could use some advice. Here's the deal.

I've been with my current GF for 1.5 years. We've been living together for 9 months. Aside from a few minor flaws, we are happy. However, there is a girl at work while we will call J, that I cannot get out of my head, and it's been getting increasingly worse. It really got bad Tuesday, after giving her a friendly hug before she left on a 1.5 week vacation.

She is single. I obviously am not. Me and the GF have gotten a little odd lately, in that we don't seem to be ourselves around each other. This has been going on for around 3 weeks. Don't know if it is because of this situation that has gotten J on my mind more, or vice versa.

Anyways, the past couple days, I've felt a little odd. Today was really bad in that I felt almost depressed today when I got to work. That has been the formula this week. J is on my head a lot for the first and last few hours of each day and not as much in the middle. It's rather odd. I thought maybe "Out of sight, out of mind" would help this issue, but, like I said, it's been worse since J left town. I've had little episodes like this before, with my last GF, but it was very different in that I was in an unhappy relationship, and overall not impressed with her. This is what I don't get. I'm happy with who I have now, but J will not go away. What should I do?

J is someone that I would take just as a friend even if nothing ... naughty ever happened. She's just a real interesting person. (and very attractive.) I've thought about tell my current GF about this issue, just to get it off my chest, but I know that will result in a fight, and her not wanting me to ever speak to J again. I'm partially thinking part of what makes J so attractive is the fact that I've never "sampled the goods" so to speak.

I sort of wonder if it would be this bad if J was here and I could see her at work.

So, anyone else ever had a situation like this? What did you do? Is this just a phase that will pass or does something have to be done to fix this? The thing I'm worried about is that I know it's changing the way I act towards my GF now, and that's not really a good thing.

Thanks. Even if I don't get a response, It was nice to at least get this off my chest.

10-05-2007, 06:18 PM	#1
gallione11 Powerplay Quarterback Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Portland, OR Exp:	Personal Dilemma I could use some advice. Here's the deal. I've been with my current GF for 1.5 years. We've been living together for 9 months. Aside from a few minor flaws, we are happy. However, there is a girl at work while we will call J, that I cannot get out of my head, and it's been getting increasingly worse. It really got bad Tuesday, after giving her a friendly hug before she left on a 1.5 week vacation. She is single. I obviously am not. Me and the GF have gotten a little odd lately, in that we don't seem to be ourselves around each other. This has been going on for around 3 weeks. Don't know if it is because of this situation that has gotten J on my mind more, or vice versa. Anyways, the past couple days, I've felt a little odd. Today was really bad in that I felt almost depressed today when I got to work. That has been the formula this week. J is on my head a lot for the first and last few hours of each day and not as much in the middle. It's rather odd. I thought maybe "Out of sight, out of mind" would help this issue, but, like I said, it's been worse since J left town. I've had little episodes like this before, with my last GF, but it was very different in that I was in an unhappy relationship, and overall not impressed with her. This is what I don't get. I'm happy with who I have now, but J will not go away. What should I do? J is someone that I would take just as a friend even if nothing ... naughty ever happened. She's just a real interesting person. (and very attractive.) I've thought about tell my current GF about this issue, just to get it off my chest, but I know that will result in a fight, and her not wanting me to ever speak to J again. I'm partially thinking part of what makes J so attractive is the fact that I've never "sampled the goods" so to speak. I sort of wonder if it would be this bad if J was here and I could see her at work. So, anyone else ever had a situation like this? What did you do? Is this just a phase that will pass or does something have to be done to fix this? The thing I'm worried about is that I know it's changing the way I act towards my GF now, and that's not really a good thing. Thanks. Even if I don't get a response, It was nice to at least get this off my chest.