Originally Posted by Phaneuf3
but that's the thing, i don't use those words in that way.
i was friends with a guy back in high school that would often refer to himself as a f%g. not a big deal - nobody in my circle of friends got offended by it - he was comfortable using it. once in a conversation with another one of our mutual friends, i made the mistake of referring to him as a f%g - meaning he was a homosexual male - and damn i got a strip torn off me.
Ok so what's the question? You're wondering why somebody might be offended by that? I think your losing me here. Like I said, there are words that some people don't find offensive, but that others do. You can only have a general idea and overall recognition that particular words are probably less suitable then others.
In your example: you claim your friends use the word fag a lot. But obviously it was offensive to somebody else.
edit: A personal example is the word 'retard'. Whenever I hear or see it on this forum, it makes me cringe a bit. I used to work with people with disabilities and lately it's been thrown around quite a bit on here. However, I'm probably the last person to tell people how to talk, since I probably do the same thing with other words anyways.