LF: Divorce Attorney

[brocoli]

Looking for a divorce attorney is Calgary or Lethbridge. Don't care where, just need to get this done.

[DownhillGoat]

As recommended by another CP member, I went with this firm:

http://www.calgaryfamilylawyers.com/

[Bmuzyka]

Jolene Lalonde at Courtney Aarbo is excellent. It is who I use.

[Peanut]

The most important thing is to look for a collaborative family lawyer, imo. Especially if kids are involved. They'll save you money in the long run and salvage some semblance of a workable relationship between you and your ex by not pitting you against each other.

[Bmuzyka]

That may work for some people. I know, personally, in my situation, I am a huge pushover, and in mediation, I caved on a few issues I should have stood my ground on. I really rely on my lawyer to protect my rights as a father, but also look out for my best interests. My ex wife has made some very unreasonable demands, and my lawyer has been awesome shooting them down. My ex wife has now on her third lawyer for a number of reasons.

[prarieboy]

Barbara Widdowson is the one you want.

http://www.wkfamilylawyers.com/our-l...widdowson.html

[Street Pharmacist]

Didn't CP's own Troutman (Peter Robinson) do family law?

[Peanut]

Originally Posted by Bmuzyka

That may work for some people. I know, personally, in my situation, I am a huge pushover, and in mediation, I caved on a few issues I should have stood my ground on. I really rely on my lawyer to protect my rights as a father, but also look out for my best interests. My ex wife has made some very unreasonable demands, and my lawyer has been awesome shooting them down. My ex wife has now on her third lawyer for a number of reasons.

Is this in response to my post about finding a collaborative lawyer and not a combative one? I think there's a middle ground between being a pushover vs. having a lawyer that fights the other lawyer on every little thing, sends a million l(expensive) letters and ultimately pushes you to the courts to settle your divorce. Lots of them (lawyers) capitalize on angry people wanting to take out their anger on their ex. I actually used Barb Widdowson myself and she was very expensive but really good. I was really really REALLY mad and sad at the outset of my divorce and she talked me down from some issues that I could have wasted a lot of money, time and energy on battling my ex unfairly about if I had a less collaborative lawyer.

Anyways. TL;DR. You can always bring your lawyer with you to mediation, too. But a jointly-retained mediator is responsible to ensure the rights of both parties are being fairly represented in the mediation.

[millhouse11]

I used Diana Richmond. I had spoken to 6 different lawyers recommended by friends/colleagues and she was the only one that was willing to do what I asked. She was a little more money up front, but in the end I think saved me thousands. Every other lawyer wanted to go through my ex wifes finances and fight everything. I didn't care about that. I just wanted it done as painless as possible. My brother went the other route, fought for everything and spent more than 3 times what I did. Having said that, you have to do what's right for you. I didn't want my ex's money or assets. I could care less. My brother cared, and in the end he paid less to his ex, but more to his lawyer.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by millhouse11

I used Diana Richmond. I had spoken to 6 different lawyers recommended by friends/colleagues and she was the only one that was willing to do what I asked. She was a little more money up front, but in the end I think saved me thousands. Every other lawyer wanted to go through my ex wifes finances and fight everything. I didn't care about that. I just wanted it done as painless as possible. My brother went the other route, fought for everything and spent more than 3 times what I did. Having said that, you have to do what's right for you. I didn't want my ex's money or assets. I could care less. My brother cared, and in the end he paid less to his ex, but more to his lawyer.

I find this funny respective of your username.

[Bobblehead]

Originally Posted by Street Pharmacist

Didn't CP's own Troutman (Peter Robinson) do family law?

He does real estate last I heard. When I contacted him about my own divorce ( a long time ago now) there was another lawyer in his office that did a good job taking care of me.