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Originally Posted by DoubleF
Having had a chance to peek behind the curtain of several HR departments in multiple organizations, one thing I often realize is that depending on the organizational structure, conversations are either easier or harder to do. This is because the structure helps to remove emotion from the conversation. Kinda like a, "This isn't personal, the structure and metrics are showing that objectively, you need to be notified of this to avoid potential consequences."
As a manager, I've noticed this as well that structure isn't pure HR fluff stuff. Structure does significantly affect manager employee relationships and how easy or awkward those conversations are.
This is possibly a reason why someone like girlysports might think these talks are easy/not difficult (and I've been in those scenarios and I concur) vs others of us who don't have these structures and thus many of these conversations are not easy and feel difficult (and I've been in these scenarios too and I also concur).
To me, good company structures/metrics help difficult conversations in work place scenarios like firefighting equipment prior to running into a burning building. Bad or lack of structure feels like having to run into that burning building with at best sopping wet t-short and shorts. It doesn't feel good to feel inadequately equipped for that scenario.
Agreed it shouldn't have to feel difficult, but also depends on how well equipped and prepared you are by your company's situation before walking into that situation. The more you can reference objective metrics and materials (ie: employee handbooks), the better.
There's a huge gap in difficulty between the difference of, "These objective metrics collected on everyone is showing you are below the performance of your peers. I am not singling you out." vs "I need to have a conversation with you because it seems that you're not doing as well as the others" (and not having good data or records to back it up)
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Yes, there needs to be HR tools that support the manager but the manager has to develop his or her own tools. Again, not everyone is cut out for management and i know many people who have turned down a lot of money to not have to do it.
There are three types of toxic managers that no matter how much HR tools they have, it will still be a problem.
1. Managers that don't know the day-to-day work of staff
- ever have a manager ask, what is it you do, how is your workload, can you give me some information on this particular project?
- not saying a manager should micromanager every minute of the day, but they have to know the work being done and not be too far removed
2. Managers that want no conflict
- issues of employees fighting, even bullying and the manager hears about it but doesn't address it, sweeps it under the rug.
- ever get a group email for an issue that has nothing to do with you? Two people are fighting but the entire group gets a "reminder"
3. Managers that show favoritism
- I think we've all been there, someone can do no wrong, the manager always takes their side over yours.
Applying for a manager role should be a big decision and people managering is probably the bulk of the job. Too often, companies want to promote from within to keep people around or just hire the wrong person due to favoritism.
The saying goes, people quit bosses, not jobs.